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Originally Posted by Henianna2330
Hi all... This is my first post in here 
My mother (age 60) lives with us and so far, the two "tests" I've had have been because of her. The first time was last Friday, when she asked me to pick her up a case of beer. I wasn't even tempted. Today, she wanted to exit through the liquor department when we went shopping (our town has an ordinance that says that alcohol must be sold in its own part of the store, and all sales have to exit through that door.) She bought her beer and I had to force myself to look straight ahead and at my cart. I wasn't craving it or anything, but didn't want to find out what I would do if I tempted myself.
Probably one of my biggest complaints now is that I seem to want to snack constantly, and half the time, on sugar/chocolate. I have two kids and they still have Halloween candy in the house, so it's enabling me for sure. UGH. I really don't want to gain 10 lbs in order to stop drinking! Going to try to get on an exercise routine starting tomorrow.
Sorry if I babble too much... this seems like it's going to be a good outlet for me if everyone can stand my ramblings. 
~Heni~ |
heni welcome to the forum! you'll find lots of support here including suggestions from many here. the challenges when you are trying to stay sober can feel daunting but it's well worth regaining your life. here are some from me
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your mom-
i'd tell her it's difficult for you to be in the area of the store with her when she purchases alcohol. you can exit before she goes to walk thru that area. even if you think you're handling being there it can boomerang/trigger you and about 3 days later you are drinking again. they/AA suggests staying away from people,
places and things. your mom's an adult and can go out and purchase her own beer. it's not good for you to do it for her, imho. once again explain why to her. in my 23 yrs. sober i've not been at a bar, walked down the booze aisle, been in a liqour store or purchased booze for anyone. not everyone takes this approach with good sobriety but i choose to avoid it still. alcohol "waits" for all of us if we give it the opportunity.
gaining weight-many of us had craving for sugar products. it's because your body thinks a lot of sugar is needed. it's been trained to think that's your natural state. alcohol is primarily sugar. so it stands to reason your craving. this will pass the longer you stay sober. you're re-training your brain. i don't think anyone has died from sugar intake except diabetics but i've known
way too many people who died from drinking.
weight gain can be reversed. it's a better alternative than drinking. for me i didn't eat right when i drank. your body is adjusting.
whether your mother chooses to support your efforts to stay sober it's important for
you to stand your ground. your life may depend on that. i would hope she will support you.
so glad you're here and posted about your drinking. have you tried AA? not everyone goes this route but it sure helped me even today.
"take it one day at a time."