((((Sesame)))) I can relate to the whole needing time alone thing to decompress. I am sorry your bf mocked you and that he somehow doesnt seem to get it. I really like the whole add a half hour/hour to the meet time. Also, perhaps it would be good to make plans to spend a few days together (mini vacation / getaway type thing).

You guys have been together for quite a time now. So life has definitely set in for your relationship Does he have friends that he does things with and/or hobbies for himself? In the long haul, I think it is really good for the relationship if you guys have together stuff and separate stuff to do (for example, you have book club one night every few weeks and he has poker or goes mountain biking with his buddies). And then, you two have "date night" too

I would also try to sit down with him and ask him what it really is that he is having a hard time eith in terms of you needing de-stress time and why he cannot respect your needs. Esp if you eant to continue with the relationship.

Best wishes to you. I hope you two can work things out!