I will try to shorten this up as much as possible. My husband and I have 4 boys between us. 18 months, 8, 9, and his son is 11. We have been married for a year, his 11 year old lives with his mom and stays with us every other weekend. My father-in-law told my husband yesterday that our 11 year old was showing his 6 year old cousin pornographic pictures on his phone and then tried to stick his "penis in his booty hole". My husband and I looked on his email and he has also signed up for a website called "face-to-face", where he can view naked pictures of women, it's like a dirty dating website. He's not read, written or received messages on it, but is just looking at the pictures. He put the bare minimum information to sign up: username, no picture, 18 year old male and city. I realize that boys are curious, and my stepson is getting to the age where his friends are talking about sex and those things, but I feel like the cousin issue is very serious. 6 year old is torn up about what happened, and I know that my stepson knows that kind of thing is wrong. We monitor at our house all Internet and tv activity very closely but I don't know what limitations he has at he moms. I knw she wouldn't allow things like this either, she is a good mom, is very religious and he has a good home life at both houses. However, her father has been known to have a pornography addiction, and our 11 year old goes over there frequently. I'm not trying to place blame or accuse him of exposing our oldest to these things but I have to consider all possibilities. We have three other boys to worry about as well, and so many questions. How long has he been doing these things, how many other kids has he tried this with, how would he know how to find material like that, why would he have tried ths with his cousin. He is very smart, and very mature for his age so I knw he knows better, but at the same time he is incredibly stand offish with people, he's very very quiet and emotional. He's a hypochondriac and is constantly complaining of headaches, stomach aches, doesn't want to go to school a lot, gets very upset about minor things and is very emotional. His mom does unfortunately baby him, and enables a lot of those issues, but I can't help but think that the way he acts and now with this new issue that something has happened to him or he has been subject to some kind of abuse, whether sexually or physically. Maybe I'm taking it too far, but I just am beside myself on how to handle this. Is any of this behavior normal, and how do we address this to his mother, and to him, and I just need advice. We HAVE had the "talk" when we saw that he had searched the word "sex" on my husbands iPad several months ago, explained the whole thing about these are grown up things and are inappropriate for him to do and look at and all of the normal things you're supposed to say when this kind of issue comes up, but now this. What do we do? My husband isn't taking it well, and is blaming himself like he went wrong somewhere or has failed in leading him in the right direction as his father and a man, and we are just very lost and don't know how to handle this without causing anymore emotional or self-esteem issues. Not to mention, how to deal with how the 6 year old is handling it, or how many others this has happened to in our family that we dont know about. Please help!