I see all the points made. In terms of sensual, I can ask him for handcuffs and an eye mask or whatever it is called because this is something I have never tried and would be willing to try. Hopefully that would be a present for him too. In terms of spoiling, I could ask to take me to a ballet performance at SF ballet which is something I would love but cannot afford on my own. But there probably is not a show exactly on my birthday.

Thank you for the responses and good wishes on my birthday!