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Old Nov 14, 2012, 12:26 PM
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Sila Sila is offline
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I think it is best for us Autistic people not to have any friends as people don't understand us and they feel frustrated and depressed talking to us.
So so wrong. What we need are people around us who try to understand, who make the effort to help us when we need it- just like we'd do for them. We have to make the effort to try and work through problems rather than blame them on the autism (speaking in general here- this tends to happen by habit rather than choice). I have had only 3 or 4 friends in my life actually "stick" with me. They're not "Neurotypical" or "normal" by any means- Their issues range from PTSD, OCD to possibly Schizoid. But they love me for who I am, despite the problems that being autistic bring. They get 'short' or upset with me sometimes, when I step over social boundaries that I don't understand. BUT instead of leaving me, they take a step back and help me understand what happened. They look out for me when I need it most. Like true friends. It takes a lot to find someone like that- but really, it makes life so much better when you know you have someone to lean on, someone you can just enjoy time with and not feel stressed out about being around them. Keep trying. I totally know how painful it is to lose friends, and how much it hurts to pick yourself up and try again. But really ,it's worth it. It's worth it when you find that one friend who won't leave you, no matter what you throw at them.
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