Relearning healthy trust is hard work for many.

To me, there is no reason why you and he can't learn to respect each other's differences and still have a relationship for cigarettes and such. Ask the social worker to help you deal with this situation... perhaps you can become friends. Wouldn't that be better?

I'm sure the staff will put up with it as long as you do... time to let them know you want things to be different, imo. TC!