Is it possible that someone can give up submission and masochism to be with the one you love?

I always thought so but I need to be controlled more, I need him to stop being so forgiving over everything and to punish me for once. I get that he is vanilla to the core and I fell in love with him knowing that,now how I an ask him to try and be more dominant? I cant.

I got into this lifestyle at a young age -too young, an underage. It's all I knew when I met him vanilla was good, but it's still at the back of my mind and he doesn't understand when I try and be submissive he gets annoyed at it, he doesn't understand.