Simply giving to someone else is validating on it's own. And to be part of something that brings that kind of big "O" pleasure to someone else is a gift. Just the ability to know you can give may be all that is necessary. Who knows maybe he will return the favor.

These instance were all in the past before big issues came about.

I can't be of much support here. Due to past issues as I stated in the last post you had. I will not be giving any BJ's in the near future. Guys can keep there DI**'s for all I care. I let my H get his 30 sec worth and he stays and he acccepts the 30 sec. (or 60 sec, how ever long) He never says no thanks. But after 3 kids if you can muster 30 sec of child free time then you better go for it.