i would be telling you to move on because it was too quick. i would be telling you to move on because i think he's a liar.

you can't save the world and you sure can't save a man who "retreats" and then all at once starts showing interest and will probably "disappear" again.

the foundation of love generally starts with friendship. you've got this guy, from the internet, that you don't even know whether or not you should trust.

you've had what the older posters would call a "fling". do you know anything at all about his background? have you met his family? his friends? have you seen where he lives? where he REALLY lives? and how old are you and how old is he? where does his money come from? is he really into you or is it the sex?

hope you're not upset with my answer. but you asked why people were giving you the advice tht you're unhappy with.

personally, i don't have any advice about how to "handle" finding out if he loves you or not. that isn't like pulling a tooth to see if it has decay..........his actions would show that he loves you and so far his actions are extremely weird and a bit sneaky.........

some people are with a man for 30 years and they still don't know if they are loved. is that what you want?