I wouldn't surprise t like that. Especially since holidays are a supposedly happy occasions. I do think something handmade/homemade would be the best way to go. Howeever, is that going to hurt you more if she refuses to take it? Either way, it puts you and t both in an awkward position. I wouldn't do this to my t, becuase it would probably cause a rupture if she didn't take it. And that sucks to be in the middle of one in the middle of the holiday season. just imo