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Originally Posted by stopdog
But this is the part you have control over. You don't have to stand in line at the post office on your birthday to send present back to your dad. You don't have to tell him you have placed the present in your closet or given it to goodwill or re-gifted it, or whatever. This part you could do differently. It won't make your dad a different person, but it is something you can do differently.
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If this were a "normal" present I would agree with you. However, the present cost $3,000. I can't put something that expensive in my closet or re-gift it or give it to goodwill. It would make me absolutely sick if my dad didn't get his money back. And, in order to get him the money back, I DID have to stand in line on my birthday and pay for overnight shipping-- otherwise we would have missed the return deadline. My dad specifically called me-- as he always does-- to say: "Are you going to keep it? If not, please return it to me immediately. It cost X. If you don't like it, I want my money back." So, as always, I return the gift, he gets his money back, and I get nothing. Sigh. I'm resigned to this always being the way it is. Oh, and if I lied and said "yes dad, I like it" he would absolutely expect me to show up at Christmas, using the new gift.