I agree that we usually need to walk toward what scares us rather than walk away. But I'm a little confused about how this T is different from your last T. Is it a sexual presence? Is he just more communicative? Does the interaction feel more spontaneous?

I certainly remember times with my T when I'd see or hear him interact in different situations and think, "Wow, he's so lively--he's not like that with me." Not sure if it's the same feeling you're experiencing.

For me, the clear ethical boundary crossings are a big deal. Did you ever talk that through? If not, are you sure this realization isn't a way to discount and avoid those lapses?