The reason I asked about this is because I didn't know if this is "good" therapy . I never experienced IMHO "good" therapy and I didn't want to tell my friend the wrong thing.. This one comment doesn't mean she is in "bad" therapy or the T is a jerk.. although it could be a red flag.. only time will tell I guess..

Maybe my ideas on "good" therapy are wrong.. I prefer problem solving and learning new coping skills.. skills that were not learned when young, and what was learned is not working, so it is time to focus on new life/coping skills. Problem solving.. I don't get a lot out of blaming so and so for doing this or that.. boo hoo... I say it happened, help me to learn to deal with what happened and show me new skills so I can move forward and not be stuck....Help me to grow and move forward.. Not keep me a victim... But I may have therapy all wrong... So this is why I asked.. I needed to hear various opinions to see if how my opinion fit in with others...

I think the only thing I can say to her that can be helpful is suggest she talk to her T.......and go from there... I am not even sure I will mention how I felt.. It is not important how I feel... What is most important is how she feels...