yeah, I am confused. is she saying she's going on a cruise without you or what?? which would be kind of cold. on the other hand, you have the freedom to start having your own holidays, starting your own traditions, even if you are single. and you can invite her, instead of going there. is that what she's saying? You don't say what the other sibs are doing. You don't live near her. why do you expect or want to "go home" for the holidays?