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Originally Posted by hankster
yeah, I am confused. is she saying she's going on a cruise without you or what?? which would be kind of cold. on the other hand, you have the freedom to start having your own holidays, starting your own traditions, even if you are single. and you can invite her, instead of going there. is that what she's saying? You don't say what the other sibs are doing. You don't live near her. why do you expect or want to "go home" for the holidays?
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Next year, she says she's doing something different, so get ready for that. She is sick of being in my hometown... My sister lives there, and my brother probably isn't coming home because he has to work. My entire family spends Christmas together, aunts, uncles, cousins, spouses.. 2nd cousins. .we do christmas together and I've always gone home.. usually my mom calls to say ask when... that's my tradition. Even in a relationship, I go home for the 25th and 26th because my mom has a party on the 26th, usually.
If I stay down here, then I can find something to do, but people spend Christmas with their families when they get along. I guess I never assumed my family would want to do something different. My tradition is to spend it with my mom. And she doesn't want to visit me... she wants to just "do her," which she made clear doesn't include me after this year.. which makes me not want to go home this year. She says I'm being selfish. I told her I don't have to come home, she said it's fine if I come home this year.
I don't know. I'm confused.. I guess i don't get what I want. and i'll have to get used to it, even if i don;t understand why.