I hear you... but I think she wants a clean slate. I won't ask her to visit. I'll let her make her changes on her own... and be free. I want to give her her space.

And pushed out of the nest? I've left the nest.. my mom told us we had to go away to school to experience the world.. and I have.. Ive traveled.. I've built a life for myself in 4 cities... I'm not dependent on my mother. I just want to spend the holidays with her.. or maybe I just want her to want to spend the holidays with me. :-\ She doesnt see us as equals. She still tries to check me about my tone of voice.. and what it is I need to do or not do.. She just feels like she's sacrificed enough so I should quit my whining and asking for or expecting anything.

Hankster, I'm sorry about your relationship with your mother. That sounds tough.. :-(