The only reason I consented to back surgery was because I had to preschool boys and I was dependent on crutches to move around. The herniation of my L4/L5 was very severe. I had excruciating nerve compression in my leg. It really was unbearable.
I had my first back surgery when I was 34. My second at 34 and a half.

All the surgery did for me, was trim the herniation so my sciatic nerve wasn't compressed. I still have pain in my back every day. I still take painkillers on occasions. On a good day I can mop the floor. On a bad day I'm unable to move without discomfort.

Think very carefully and try other avenues first. Lose weight if you need to. Strengthen your core muscles and walk everywhere.