I feel as though a lot of the posts here are uncharacteristically supportive. And by 'uncharacteristically' I mean entirely unexpected based on the nature of the internet. Of course, I also joined a few months ago, so 'back then' psych central was never something I experienced.

It seems to me that aggression towards the OP only develops after the OP has been too obstinate and doesn't take advice or is advocating a selfish position. There are some actions and mentalities that just can't be supported. In this case, I think of a "critique sandwich" (like you would make in art class) -- give compliments/support, point out the failings and how they can be changed, finish with encouragement and support.

Unfortunately, I think animosity towards the OP can also result from triggers. It might not be appropriate to respond to a post that has triggered a lot of negative emotions about the OP.