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Nov 17, 2012, 02:38 PM
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Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Mid World
Posts: 18,111
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Originally Posted by pegasus
When I first joined PC you didn't reply to an OP unless you were being supportive ie acknowledging the OP, agreeing with the OP, giving the OP a hug etc. Back then, your post was deleted if your reply was unsupportive of the OP and you'd get a nice message from a moderator telling you not to reply to threads that you didn't agree with. In fact I remember being told off for saying that I was 'playing devils advocate' in giving a different point of view.
It seems to me that the rules have changed somewhere along the line. I now feel apprehension before posting a thread for fear that I will not get 'support.' That's a shame, I liked what 'support' used to mean here at PC.
No doubt I'll get some unsupportive replies to this thread, yes I feel very fearful of that.
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Pegs, I am bothered by "support" meaning you have to agree with the poster. I believe I can support someone by offering a different perspective. That doesn't mean I have to be confrontational or combative toward the person. Case in point, a few minutes ago I posted a reply to someone saying I wasn't trying to minimize what they were feeling but offered a different perspective. The OP PM'd me to say thank you, my post helped them.
Personally I'm bothered by threads where all the replies are in effect pats on the back and encouragement to continue making choices that are harmful to the poster or someone else.
You said you are struggling right now. What kind of help or support do you need from us?
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