I am very familiar and it is horrible...my brother and sister are nightmares in their own right. Interestingly, my father is the total enabler and buries his head in the sand but he knows what he is doing. He would rather cut me out than have to deal with my mother. He is really close to my sister who is a mini version of my mother .... which thinking about it is pretty creepy

i send birthday notes and a knowledge their anniversaries (if I didnt fully celebrate the birth of their perfect selves or the union between two "perfect people" it would be considered outrageous to them. I guess I am still suffering to an extent...under the spell?). But I instituted a zero contact rule.

Being around them nearly killed me. I still have to see my brother...which literally makes me quite sick. I hope that will ease up once he retires (in two years).