I've been separated from my wife for about 8 months and the divorce won't be done until March of next year because our state does not allow divorce until after 1 year of separation. She initiated the divorce and really after a few weeks I was sure it was the right thing but at the same time, I went through a lot of very tough emotional challenges for awhile.

It does get better. In spite of the fact I knew I didn't want her back, there was this big empty space in my life that was there for 13 years. Just being married for that long and then suddenly alone is hard. It takes a lot of re-adjustment and your whole way of thinking has to shift and that won't happen overnight. I've learned to focus on my kids and myself more but it wasn't easy and took a bit of work. Being on PC helped a lot, I made a lot of friends here and met a lot of supportive people.

Hang in there!
*hugs*