Hi there, I know a couple of women that are the exact same, they freak out in the same way. The advice I gave them was just be honest and say you have a thing about it and how three feel, which they did, the guys they have been with didn't see it as such a problem as they'd thought! One of them finds licking doesn't effect her the same as it feels different.
I myself hate touching my own in a similar way, but don't mind a guy doing it.
Hugs M.