I find that I respond to certain types of posts and not others. Often I recount my perspective because it seems like there is being presented only one perspective and often mine is different, so I like to show there can be different ways of doing or thinking about it. Not that mine is right, just that mine is not wrong. I try to only give advice if I feel I understand or sort of have a relationship with the person. I try to stay away from advice or posting much on those threads or with those persons who I simply do not understand their perspective or what they want. I hope they get what they want, but I don't feel I can give it nor do I know what it is. I do not understand why some people seem to want to tell others how wrong they are. To me, that is when just not reading or responding would be the better part of valour. I don't find it is usually useful for me to criticize how others are. I may disagree, but who am I to criticize them or decide what they need.