Thank you everyone for the replies, I am trying to learn from each and every response. I think I will stick to some of my beliefs about support. I'm a firm believer that there are ways of saying things without being antagonistic. And yes I think a hug or a comforting word can do much for someone if they are distressed. We are all individuals and post our words in different ways and that's ok too. Maybe in time my 'fears' will subside. I don't learn well through confrontation.

Thanks again all.