Thank you, Confused. I just wanted to note that my OP was very clear in plain English: I said that I already have a lover who brings me water when I take my psych meds, which indicated that I was not looking for an exclusive r/s. I can pull off an exclusive r/s - I did for 12 years, which is a lot, right? - but I am not looking for that now. So having been so clear, I was surprised to receive that kind of response that pointed out that Charles might have other intimate connections. I think that other posters simply picked up, correctly, on my cues that were 100% clear, so thanks.