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I do have a tendency to feel defensive and than no consider anything she is saying. Sometimes later in the day I will rethink therapy and see she may have had a point.
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I so understand what you are saying. You have had to be the one to "fix" everything and do everything for so long and it's worked for you and the others for the most part. So to hear t giving you different ideas can definitely make you feel defensive. The wonderful thing is that you take the time to think about what t said later on and you give what she said some weight. Please know as well that t is not trying to make you defensive or give you a hard time.
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I am not used to accepting help. Or even asking for it.
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You are certainly not the only one who has ever struggled with this. What do you think might happen if you accepted someones help? What do you think might happen if you even asked for someones help? Is there a fear within you about asking or accepting help from others?
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We work things out for ourselves.
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I'm really glad that you can all work things out between you. Do you think that by asking for help or opinions from others would make it so that you are not working it out for yourselves? I think that having as much information as possible is a good way to make sound decisions.
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But another part understands that our t has helped us already and we need her in order to learn more about us. The conflict is exhausting.
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I think that is good insight on the other part. I think you may find that even though it's exhausting for you now, in time there will be more understanding inside which will help reduce the conflict that is occurring right now.
It's hard to change how you think about things. It's hard to even imagine that things could change for the better when you have been so used to how things have always been done. One thing I learned a long time ago....there is more than one good way to do something. We just have to face that fear and take the step needed in order to open our minds to the positive possibilities.
I believe you are doing your best to handle life and protect yourself and all inside. That is your job and you step up to the plate. I hope you know that I appreciate what you are doing and I also appreciate this opportunity to talk with you here.
Take good care!