Have you been documenting amt of time you have the boys?
The only good thing about an ugly divorce is you loose whatever feelings you had left for your ex at the courthouse steps...

Oh, and on the Xanax, just enough to be relaxed but still sharp enough to make quick decisions or answer questions.

If you're confident in your lawyer, let him handle stuff you have no control over. He knows you're end goals. The ugly part can only last so long... Sounds like after all is said & done you will be ok. Let's hope for best outcome.
Take good care & keep posting.