Let me make sure I've missed nothing, HB. You are in CA and planning on staying there, and Charles is in NY, planning on staying in his location. I don't really see the need to go into a lot of explanation about certain details in your lives. Leaving Stanford was in the past, and you don't have to make excuses for the past. You obviously care for Charles, and the way you describe him is as an intelligent, caring individual. He has liked you, Hamster for Hamster over all of these years, so I can't imagine that he would be upset about the bipolar-after all, you are controlling it very well!
I am curious as to how he has so many ties with companies in the Silicon Valley. He must be a very influential person!
Enjoy the time that you and Charles can carve out to spend together!
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