You are right about perception drunksunflower....
but you are not lame & you still have the right to stay at home if you wish.....
I know I too am lucky to have the friends I have, I feel like I don't deserve them, but they like me for me, not coz I go out with them....
(Then again I often wonder why they like me for me, I dont even like me for me!!)

Flinty