Well, I am usually turned off by people who are "nasty" to others. Could you tell us what you consider to be nasty behavior toward others?

I shudder at the thought that a husband can murder his wife, or can have his wife murdered. It happens all the time, but why it happens escapes me. It's unconscionable.

I would think that, if a person is mean toward others, then that person can potentially be mean toward you. That's wise to question his behavior.

Have you talked to him about how you feel when he's "nasty" towards others? If you're in a relationship that you hope willl continue indefinitely, you owe it to yourself to find out all that you can. Communication is key to any relationship.

Best wishes to you. Keep us posted on how things are going.

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