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Originally Posted by lastyearisblank
Yeah- my last partner I broke it off with when they called me ugly, and the previous one when he got physical with me. Honestly, I don't think it's a pattern or something you can predict in some ways. I don't think there are that many truly good partners out there.
Truth be told I don't know if I will leave him... I never do until it hurts too much not to. I just don't have much common sense like I said before so it's partly my fault.
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It sounds like you do have a pattern of being with men who have abusive issues, which shouts out to me that you have low self-esteem. Especially when you blame yourself for sticking around until it hurts too much not to leave. And, no, you aren't stupid.
You have a sad history. Perhaps learned by what you saw in your house as you grew up, or more generally in society.
Decent men are out there. It can be real hard to believe that, I know! But, I've met quite a few really decent men over the years. (I've also met some sleazeballs) It's a cue that we need to be less anxious to fill that huge whole inside of ourselves. We need to deal with the loneliness and anxiety, working upon our self-esteem, and build patience to meet a decent man.
