One small note: In giving instruction, do it as the_submissive was saying, like, "A little softer/more gentle/harder/firmer," "Do little circles like this" (and show him), and "I like when you do this." Try not to be too critical unless he's just not getting that something is hurting you or making you uncomfortable or chafed. "Don't do that!" might seem a bit snappish.
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