Oh, yeah! Regarding the cuffs and BDSM stuff. One alternative I came up with myself, I'm proud to say (but haven't actually tried it) is, get some long, thin strands of licorice (your choice, black or red), and use them to tie you or your partner up, perhaps attached to a bed post or whatever, but make sure you're able to reach your wrists with your teeth, should you want to break free. It gives you the comfort of feeling submissive and at the other person's will, but in case you want to be free and he won't let you, you can free yourself. Obviously, that will take some time, but it's safer than cuffs.