I have a lot of personal experience with this, not me but my boyfriend, not the most common problem for men. Also caused by basically a medical problem, tho his was more extensive across the areas of the body and severe like you said. He did opt for surgery.. a tummy tuck, plus legs and arms. If that is something you were considering you could PM, I would not mind sharing with you at all, tho it doesn't go the same for everyone that is for sure. It is something that can go either way.

I know there is really probably not much I can say to help you feel better about yourself. But I will say this.. my boyfriend felt so bad about his body, I mean I have dealt with anorexia for years, it's not new to me, but the extent of his feelings were quite bad. He also thought no one would ever love him, or want to be with him, let a lone find him sexy. Well He was so wrong about that, I find him very sexy, and to me.. it's nothing, it speaks about what he has been through and learned, nothing bad what so ever. He also used the word repulsive to describe himself, I cannot see it at all.

Tho yes you have to find it within, and I understand, I have struggled for years with body issues, I am finally overcoming them, but it has been a long road. I don't minimize it at all.

I am sorry you have to deal with this too tho. It really saddens me, and the cause.. well I don't even know what to say, that's unacceptable to me.

Tho do feel free to PM if you want, I am pretty open and I would not in the least Maven.