Okay Dukie, here it is. Puberty happens, and hormones go crazy. You can be boy crazy before puberty, during and after, or it may take a while. It doesn't matter cuz you are who you are. If you are finding yourself boy crazy, that is ok! Now... I have two daughters and you are one year older than my oldest, so I have to comment on this.

It sounds like you are curious because you keep bringing up the issue on sex. It is ok to be curious. It is NOT okay to give yourself to ANYONE at your age. I am going to be blunt here, and I'm sorry if anyone has a problem with it. but a child without guidance just means that no one had the balls to guide them. So I will.

At 13 there are things that are ok and there are things that are not. Now, the reason you should avoid sex at your age is that you are not mature and your potential partner would not be mature enough either. If you did find a mature partner willing to have sex with you, then you have found someone who belongs in prison. a boy your age will only ruin and destroy what self esteem you do have and totally abolish your reputation. They are not mature at 13 and 14. Kids at that age are still very mean in school, as you already know.

Masturbation is perfectly ok. there is nothing wrong with it. It exists for a reason, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. This is what should be happening as the alternative to having sex.

You will know when you are ready. But you have to grow up first. Be very, very weary of ANYONE who encourages you to perform sexual acts.

obsessing over cute boys is ok.
having crushes is ok too. these are normal stepping stones in life. Just be careful who you tell that you have a crush, cuz at this age, they won't keep a secret very well and it is you that will suffer.

Some things are ok to keep to yourself. there is nothing wrong with that.

let yourself develop, and your curiosity is normal too. just don't take anything past that.

You are def. a girl who is wiser than her years! You have been dealing with a lot. It kinda makes people grow up faster when they suffer inside.

what this means to you is that you will have to wait longer for the boys and girls around you to catch up to you! It may be that you will be waiting a long time, and you will have to be patient with everyone your age. You may see things that they don't. Don't try to convince them of seeing things your way. Just be patient. They will catch up.

There! I had my talk with you! I hope that I have helped you in some way or another.