I don't agree, he is thinking about it just as much as I do (we are both big thinkers, always have been). He told me he can't stop thinking about everything and wishes he could find the answers. Maybe we will stop any contact.
It's never just one person responsible. It is not about what a person is worth. I am not blaming myself. I am not blaming him. It doesn't help to "blame". I am not saying that I am going to accept everything, definitely NOT.
I am trying not to repeat the same mistakes. We both need rescuing but we both need to understand that we have to rescue ourselves.
If love grows out of this, even better! But don't worry I am going to protect myself. I am speaking out my needs loud and clearly. If he doesn't want to go the way, I will accept it.

Thanks Patty!