Oh wow, I'm so sorry dinkydee.

You are doing the right things here. He will never change until he starts to recognize the damage he is doing to himself. Maybe losing you will be the catalyst he needs to realize he and his addiction are the problems here.

Be strong. Addicts are master manipulators and liars. Don't let him talk you into anything. Listen to your instincts and don't do anything you don't feel 100% comfortable doing.