I know everything that was said was out of concern, and that's why I ran to my sponsor, haha! I remember Bama well too, and she popped in my head when I was posting the whole thing. I learned what not to do from her. I'm not jumping into anything with my boyfriend, even though we had a serious live in relationship in the past. I had set boundries for myself and my next relationship, a dating period is a must, and he is no exception. He is very respectful of that, even when it's time for him to go home in the evenings. He absolutely is not, and never has been, in any way abusive. I don't stand for that. I'm hoping this whole blackout thing was an isolated incident. Don't worry, my guard is up, and my HP is BIG. =)