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Originally Posted by Miguel'smom
I pretend it's my sister by judging everything I do as if she did it. If I do a paper after the first draft I edit and turn in "my sister's paper", "my sister" cleaned my house, "my son" cooked dinner like that.
I know I'm hiding my sadness when I wear make-up. I hide frustration when going after the perfect body. I hide anger and guilt with being the perfect parent / wife. I hide anxiety with over organization. I hide my eating disorder through beauty products, and minimization. I mask all of that with humor. So when I notice, T notices or my husband notices I'm trying to be the perfect __________ I know the general direction to look in. It takes time and a lot of observation.
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This is just purely an observation Miguel's Mom but when you pretend "my sister" did it, or "son" did it, would this not be more hiding? Hiding the fact that you did it, and hiding from dealing with the issue by pretending. This isn't meant in a bad way, just seems like you might be holding yourself back by pretending.
I'd worry that you might have to pretend forever if you don't allow yourself to accept that you did these things. Which could also be prime times for self esteem building for you as well. You can't be proud, or happy for yourself if "your sister" did it.
I hope that makes sense, maybe you don't see it that way, it just stood out to me.
