Holidays are depressing enough without this kind of pressure. I know it is easier to say than it is to do but tell her no and hold your head high and know you are not doing anything wrong. We all need to learn that we cannot help everybody because we only have limited resources.

As far as not having food, there are so many resources out there for people that are doing without and there is absolutely no shame in getting a helping hand from time to time, do whatever is right for your family.