Id like to say thank you for all the feedback to my request for support on this. What Im hearing is to not contact her, to give her space - that is what you have ALL said, so this is the advice I am going to take.

I am a social creature and love nothing more than to be in contact with someone a lot, especially when i want to share news, or want to hear theirs..so this is going to be really hard for me. But what I know, is that this is a billion time harder for her, and that is the key to this. Its not about me, it is about what she is going through. I want to be there at the other end, should she want me when she feels safer and more secure in herself. We live an hour apart, so theres no chance we will bump into each other. I have contacted one of her close friends via Facebook and luckily she has got back to me about this. She has told me that I should not contact her for a while and that she needs her own space. I definitely now know that this is a way I can help. I think I'm a pretty patient person, but I also feel so useless not doing anything. And the waiting is killing me - its only been 48hours but we talk everyday, sometimes 3 or 4 times a day on the phone. The gap this has left in pretty enormous. I really care about her though and I must honour this. I really do appreciate everyones support here, you ve helped me to understand this particular period of time.
So thank you xxx