I understand what you are going through, since I also have a high level for drama, and have been obsessed with men at times in my life.

One thing I want you to think about, though, is that by remaining "addicted" to this man (I prefer the word obsessed, actually), you are both robbing yourself of real relationships, and also protecting yourself from the potential pain that comes from those relationships. After not seeing him for a couple of years, the chances are that the "man" you are still obsessing over isn't a real man at all, but an idealized version of the man you were involved with. You may want to ask yourself what this fantasy man is giving you that you are not finding in the real world.

If you really want to get over this, then you can, but it takes work. It might help to find a book on cognitive therapy, which essentially gives you tools for changing thought patterns that are hurting you. And perhaps you don't feel that these obsessive thoughts are hurting you, but they are preventing you from enjoying real and healthy relationships.

Good luck, and let us know how you are doing.

mj