Hey all! I am new to the site and am looking for advice on how to approach a situation. My fiance and I have an 8 month old son. Him and my older sister got into a HUGE fight around May, and are no longer speaking to each other...in fact they pretty much cant stand each other because there was some nasty things said. At the time, him and myself were living with my parents (we are trying to save up money for our own place). Well...my sister told my parents that if he continued to live here...she would not let her daughter (my 13 year old niece) come over anymore (she spends a lot of time with them). Needless to say, they were forced to ask him to leave. He is now staying with his mother, as I am still with my parents because we still can not afford a place on our own. He comes over on the weekends and spends time with us, but is becoming increasingly bitter of the situation. I can't say a blame him...however I am at a loss on what to do. Now the holidays are rolling around, and my sister has told my parents that if he is invited over, then she was not going to come over. My family is very close, and my parents felt they could not have that...so they have told me that I have to work something else out. I have decided that our son and I will be spending Thanksgiving with him and his mother...and that I would go over to his place on Christmas Eve so we could do our own Christmas there. He is not happy about the Christmas situation. He feels that he is missing his son's first Christmas because my sister will not put her feelings for him aside. Once again, I can't say I blame him...but I don't know what else to do. I have created the best compromise I could think of, and the only other thing he says is "make her get over it". Everytime I try to talk to either one of them about the situation, they both say I am picking sides...when actually, I am just trying to have them get along. The holidays are supposed to be for the kids, and not this petty arguing. Any advice you all could give on the situation would be much appreciated!