that was good, thank you, and that is where you should have stopped. I do not visit your thread about an*l masturbators because I do not know a thing about them - I have nothing to contribute. I did take note that there is such a thread, so when/if I become interested in an*l play, I will know where to go, which is very good, so - thanks. But, I do not try to contribute beyond my ability. You mentioned one dating site - OkCupid - you should have stopped there, contributing relevant info within your ability. That would have been true support. I look for dating sites because I am not at capacity with men. I am at capacity with cats. My cat Tommy regularly runs away, and when he does, I have to run to the apartment, close the door so that another cat, Adele, does not run away, and then run chase Tommy. I just did, today. I still have not learned how to wheel my bike into the apartment in such a way that Tommy would not run away. Luckily, Maddy, my third and last cat, has never shown interest in running away. My apartment complex' rules allow one cat per apartment, so I am already in gross violation. Of course, I do not advertise that I keep three cats. Do I sometimes want more cats? Not really, I am satisfied with what I have, but should I want another kitty, it is just a call away - I am good friends with the head of the local cat rescue agency. But I have decided that three is my limit. I like variety, I like different colors and personalities, but there is a limit, and I have reached it. With men, I am not at capacity - I need more variety, I still have many free evenings. So, I am looking for dates. Pretty innocuous, no? And, one does not have to associate with polyamorous people for that (although there is nothing bad in that at all) - the default expectation in dating is that people have multiple dates. People TALK about going steady, after awhile. It is not a DEFAULT expectation. And who knows, maybe a person is just round the corner who is worth my faithfulness - you never know these things.

I am really glad that I am where I am in life with respect to cats - they are wonderful and I love them and I care for them and I buy the most expensive, most healthful wet food on the market for them and never give them any dry food so that they can live long happy lives well into the old age. Next I need to 1) find a permanent position 2) get more guys or, depending upon circumstances, get into a serious r/s. We will see how things pan out for me. I am open-minded.