I rarely connect to anyone. Actually when people connect, a lot of it is based on projection. I know many will scream and say no, but that is how I witnessed it. Like I have a friend who says she easily connects to people. She says we have connected and she feels a deep connection with me. Thing is, she often runs me over, because she doesn't even know who I am. What I am. She has projected an image of me and then connected to it. I've seen other do similar things.

If it's not that, it is that people generalize a lot. Like we both like a and b so we must like c, d, e, f, g too and if we don't it doesn't matter because we feel like we do and belong together.
I don't miss this magic connection others seem to have. I'm happy to connect in my own manner, even if it disqualifies most people from being my friends. Also I am connected to living things. It's just that they are four legged. I can see if a cat or a horse is afraid of me, curious of me, likes me, wants a cuddle, is happy, is angry etc etc. Once I was on vacation to a place where there is barely no animals at all. Finally I found a sled dog tied up outside a house. I went to sit with her a while several days and I felt a need in me was fulfilled.

If I didn't have the connection with the animals, maybe I would indeed feel like I needed to find out how to connect with people.

Good luck on your adventure of life.