adamsgirl,

I hope that things work out for you. I'm a bipolar guy who is recently divorced from a bipolar woman, and I know how difficult things can be in this situation. Have you tried taking your fiancee to a support group for those who live (or want to) with victims of bipolar? This can be really helpful for your guy to understand what you are going through and how he can help you deal with it (and deal with it himself). Also, how well controlled is your disease? Maybe it is time to see a pdoc to re-evaluate your treatment and meds?

I really, really hope that you can work this out with your fiancee. Loving support is so critical to our well-being. What you have to remember is that it is also critical to your husband-to-be, even when you are really sick. A good therapist can help you in learning how to do this. It's a really hard thing for us to do.

I wish you well, and I hope things work for the best!

DJ