Hi,
I am truly desperate for real information. I'm afraid that there isn't an answer to this problem, but I have to ask...
Here's my situation;
I've been receiving treatment for depression for over 8 years now. I see my therapist and psychiatrist regularly, I'm consistent with my meds, and have good relationships with my family and friends. I have hobbies, I'm in good health and have a great job.
Unfortunately, my life is still completely empty and I'm bored out of my mind.
I realize my boredom is not going attract any sympathy or merit much attention when compared to the other posts in this forum, but I'm absolutely horrified at the idea of having to live like this for another 50 years.
Everyone I know is married or in a relationship, most have children and other responsibilities. All I have is my cat. I'm constantly pestering my friends to go out or do something fun, but they are too busy with their families. I'm on a constant lookout for new friends and single women but have had little success.
Most weekends I spend alone, but not by choice. I do as much as I can to get out of the house, but eating out and going to the movies by yourself isn't much fun. I try to absorb myself in reading and hobbies, but I have a hard time concentrating on anything when I'm so lonely.
I dread the weekends and vacation time when I don't have the structure of work.
What do I do when it's Saturday night and I've called my entire list of friends and still have no one to spend time with? I'm not horribly shy, but I still can't walk into a social organization full of complete strangers and make friends. MySpace and Match.com haven't been much help either.
I'm not even sure what my point is anymore, but what should I do? I'm afraid that my response to any sort of generalized advice will be, "I tried it and it didn't work". I'm not just terrified about how lonely and bored I'll be next weekend, I'm terrified about how lonely and bored I'm going to be next year, and the year after that, and the year after that.....
So picture this; I'm sitting on my couch, I have absolutely nothing to do for the next 2 days, I've slept as much as I can, I've called everyone I know, I spent as much time as I can running errands and inventing pointless tasks for myself, I've read as much as I can concentrate on, I'm desperately wishing for monday morning to arrive so I can go to work. What should I do????????
What's the point of struggling through the lows of depression when I don't know how to live a normal life anyway?
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