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Originally Posted by cryingoutloud1
I did the home work my thearpist had me do. She wanted other parts to count how many parts there are and what ages they were . So i sat and wrote down the numbers next to the names i had listed and added the ages. she asked how i got the ages and names i said it came into my head. She said good you can hear them again. Wouldn't that mean i just thought it up?? because that is what it seemed like. I tried to explain it to her and she said No they talked to you? How does she know this? She is happy that i am getting angry about my childhood and life. Plus i have been using facebook to contact with family. they all seem happy and are going to my aunts for the holiday. Not one ever invited me to a holiday. I spent one xmas and thanksgiving with that family in my hole life. All of this is making me very upset and angry. why is it that i got that hand that was dealt? what i do?i mean i was not even born right i was premature and have verntrical issue in my brain etc. the people that come to this house(it is not mine) tells me to get a job and get off of ssi because there is nothing wrong with me. My family tells me the same thing. One person that comes here (the person that owns the house and lives in the house wiht me) nephew said that I am milking the system. I feel bad enough about quieting my job that i had several months ago. i want to leave here but I don't have enough money. I am so stuck i see no light and i don't want to take it anylonger.  |
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Originally Posted by cryingoutloud1
she asked how i got the ages and names i said it came into my head. She said good you can hear them again. Wouldn't that mean i just thought it up?(
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for some people yes it does mean they are making them up, and only you know whether you are pretending /making this up or not, on this website we are not allowed to question the validity of other members existence of disorders and symptoms like whether they have alters or not...
for some people being able to have what happened with you in this assignment, it means they have co consciousness.
co consciousness is being able to hear your alters, being able to know what is happening when the alters are in control, being able to know the alters thoughts, being able to communicate with the alters..
for most if not all people with alters is a really good thing to have co consciousness, it really helps speed the healing process up, and helps the process along in general with things like getting everyone to work together as a team instead of off doing their own thing all the time.
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Originally Posted by cryingoutloud1
I tried to explain it to her and she said No they talked to you? How does she know this?(
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I cant speak for your therapist because only she knows why she posed the question back to you in the way in which she did, but here where I live and work in NY, USA therapists are not all knowing, and cant read a persons mind, but they can read a persons tone, body language and words.
when a therapist poses a questions like this back to the client it is a way for the therapist to remain neutral, not put words in the clients mouth and have the client answer whether or not the alters are talking to them, or any other controversial topic its called mirroring here where I live and work and is a therapy tool that helps clients understand where they are conflicted, confused, unsure of things.
for example when my thoughts are not clear or my words are saying one thing but my body language is showing the opposite, my therapist will "mirror" what I have said to her, what she heard me say with my words and body language.
me - no they are not talking to me its like this...
my therapist...noticing the confusion in my tone of voice, my posture and facial expression, is not matching what I am saying changes her position to show how I am sitting, and using the same facial expression I am using and says back to me in the same tone of voice I am using...
no they are not talking to you?
me ..Im not sure, I dont think they are, I mean they are in my head how can something in my head "talk" to me?
therapist.. qood question you tell me, what does it sound like when you got this answer for the assignment? what did it feel like when you got this answer for the assignment? How did you know the answer to the assigned question?
then I was able to take each question one at a time and explain to her about my alters..
there is no one way to be co conscious with an alter, so just take it one step at a time and the words to describe how things are between you and the alters will come and your therapist will understand.
as for the why this and everything else has happened to you, why you have been dealt the hand you got, only you can answer those questions..
suggestion maybe these would be great topics for discussion in your therapy sessions. your therapist can help you look into the family dynamics and help you to understand what lead up to you being the way you are and the life you have at the moment. your therapist can also help you make changes to the things about you and your life that you would like to be differently than they are.