in your first post you asked

here we are not allowed to tell members what their problems are called. doing so is called making a diagnosis. so in my post I told you, what these same symptoms you are having is called... anger issues.. in my own location. I wasnt saying you have anger issues.

one thing about anger issues is that there is no one way to have them and anger to major extremes isnt something that is always there in a persons life, for some yea you can predict they are going to have problems with controlling their anger as an adult if their childhood is full of destruction of property, but most if not all people anger is an emotions that just comes upon a person according to whats going on in their life, some people can control it, others cant and some people its like "the last straw" they are able to control how they express their anger in positive ways until finally one day there comes along that one situation that breaks their control and they lash out in negative ways.

example a person who has never in their whole life exploded in anger can one day in their adult life suddenly be so angry at their boss, wife, children, their life what ever and express that anger in smashing personal belongings, or punching people or objects, or any number of ways to express that anger in negative ways..

I never had that kind of anger situation until after a work related trauma. I never smashed anything, I never punched any one, never hit out in anger, not even at my own abusers.. then one day a victim died at the hands of her abuser in front of me. first I went through shock, grief for my victim. then one day my wife came in to the house expecting a hug and kiss how was your day and that one little thing a dropped book happened, I dropped the book I was carrying from one room to the next and I lost it, literally tore the house apart, throwing things, smashing things, ripped up pictures, clothing, on and on I went until all I could do was sit on the floor and cry. my wife comes out of the bathroom and took me in her arms and said "bout time you deal with all that bottled up anger issues huh" she held me while I cried, then she said "so what are you going to wear to work tomorrow your birthday suit?" she helped me clean up the place and we went shopping to replace some of the much needed items that I had distroyed and also bought some things that I could use while dealing with my anger issues with the work related trauma. then we redecorated one of the basement rooms so that when I needed to deal with my anger issues I had a safe place to do so with things I could safely destroy, punch, kick, hit, scream at, what ever..

here where I live and work in NY, USA when a person expresses their anger in a negative way its called "having anger issues" "having a problem with anger", other words for expressing anger in negative ways here where I live and work is called being "aggressive," "having a temper tantrum." "being out of control" "outraged" and if it happened while driving here where I live and work its called "road rage"

only you can say whether you were so angry about something that you were "out of control," or so angry about something that you were " having a temper tantrum" , "outraged" , "acting aggressively", "having an anger issue"

suggestion now that you know somewhere inside of you, there is this explosive situation happening, maybe you can set up a safe place in your home where you cal let go.