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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
As a man, I find this additional information disconcerting. I mean, why lie about a relationship that happened before you were together? I'm one that believes in full disclosure of my past. I mean but then, I don't have a long history with girlfriends and dates so it's not difficult, but still... What concerns me is that anyone (male or female) is willing to lie about anything so readily. For me, it would make me wonder if there are other things that I haven't discovered them being dishonest about. That's a real warning flag for me, tbh.
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And, this is what has me a bit sick to my stomach. I will admit that even though I would tell the truth about any question that he'd directly ask me, I don't always offer up all the details if they have not been solicited by him. He has never, not even once, asked me about an ex-boyfriend, so I've only ever volunteered fairly generic information if I know that they'll end up meeting one day. He has met some guys that I've dated in the past but not known about the relationship becuase he's said he doesn't want to know. So, I just introduce them as friends and he doesn't ask anything more. If he were to ask me if I'd ever dated them, I'd tell him the absolute truth. So, I really only volunteer information about guys who have been real "boyfriends" but not about every guy that I've ever dated or hooked up with...At this point, I'm not mad about the information, just the lying. Grrrr.
I've asked that on a going-forward basis he just tell me the truth the first time I ask a question and not worry about whether I'll get upset. He's promised to do this, but I will definitely feel the fool if this happens again.